“The greatest way to live with honour in this world is to be what we pretend to be.”

Honor has a deeply meaningful place in our lives, whether it’s pledging allegiance to our country’s flag, attending the same schools as our family, how we celebrate holidays, living the Golden Rule, or simply living by the set of values handed down through the generations. Whether we grow up with them, or become adults and create them anew, Honor is the manner through which we exhibit our integrity. It has been said that Honor encompasses, and is the foundation of, every single virtue ~ it is the cornerstone from which all virtues extend. We have only to focus on this one pivotal value, and the rest naturally flow. To be Honorable is, above all, the strongest trait we pass to our children.

If we ask ourselves the following questions, we get a clear picture of where honor stands in our life: What and Whom do we honor? Where do we show Honor? When do we demonstrate Honor? Why do we Honor that person or thing? And most importantly, How do we show the Honor we feel inside? A revealing exercise for the Gratitude Journal, yes?!

Inspiration to live by:

Live With Honor

If you want to be known, then live with Passion.

If you want to be liked, live then with Enthusiasm.

If you want to be respected, then live with Integrity.

If you want to be admired, then live with Class.

If you want to be thought well of, then live with Sincerity.

If you want to be spoken well of, then live with Kindness.

If you want to be trusted, then live with Honesty.

If you want to be loved, then live with Humility.

If you want to be influential, then live with Strength.

If you want to be inspiring, then live with Courage.

If you want to be significant, then live with Intention.

If you want to be successful, then live with Purpose.

If you want to be happy, then live with Gratitude.

If you want to be fulfilled, then live with Excellence.

If you want to be revered, then live with Grace.

If you want to be remembered, then live with Honor.



The Lakota tribe was known as some of the greatest warriors of all time. They were feared in battle. Every young man was raised to be a warrior for the tribe. Within the tribe of warriors was a small group of men called the Red Shirt Warriors. The color red in Lakota culture stood for honor. They were the best of the best, a prestigious club that every young warrior wanted to strive to be a part of. Every four years, the Red Shirt Warriors extended an invitation to a select few of the young warriors to test themselves in order to be admitted to the group. The physical tests were difficult and not all those invited were able to pass. The first tests were ones that allowed the young warriors to demonstrate the skills of battle – marksmanship, horsemanship etc. But the last test to earn membership to the elite group was a difficult test of endurance. The test had a time limit of four days and was done during the hottest part of the year. Each young warrior was sent out by themselves, without food or water and only a knife for protection and told to follow a well-known path to a high shale cliff. They were instructed to climb the high cliff and recover a red sash that had been tied to a stone at the top of the mountain. Their goal was to recover the sash from the top of the cliff and return to camp with it within the four day time period. Little did they know that the tribal elders had actually placed two red sashes on the mountain. One rolled up tied red sash that when unfurled was about 6 feet long had been placed at the top of the mountain on the high cliff (which is the one they were instructed to return with), and one rolled up tied red sash that when unfurled was only about 3 feet long which had been placed at the bottom of the mountain just off the side of the trail and easily gotten. Because of the difficulty and distance, the young warriors would usually get back by sunset of the fourth day, exhausted, thirsty and hungry. Upon arriving back to the tribe and before they were given any food or water, they were escorted into the lodge of the Red Shirt Warriors and asked to present the sash they had recovered. According to their stories, no one being tested ever returned without a red sash. The sash was to be held tightly in their hands. The young man was asked to hold one end of the sash at head height and let it unfurl toward the ground. If it extended all the way to the ground, the man had gained membership and was considered a Red Shirt Warrior. If it did not reach the ground, he was denied membership, and never allowed another opportunity to join the elite group. No explanation was given to the ones denied and no explanation was ever needed, because it wasn’t just a test of endurance, but more importantly, a test of honor.


When all is said and done, we have only our Honor to stand on, for it speaks for itself, with acts of kindness, the courage to live with conviction, and the teachings for future generations, our future. Ingrain it in your mind, and capture its essence with fire in your heart!

In Peace,

Debra Tiffany